I recently started blogging on another website on a weekly basis. It is a closed community, so not something that is open to the public, but it has been a very interesting experience so far. Fortunately, I am the blogger (I am one of 5) that is supposed to give the really different points of view in this quite traditional world of management. That gives me a bit of leeway, which is a good thing, because I have realised that I am inspired by the weirdest things...
It is time to come clean. To own up and acknowledge it. I am writing a book. One of those things that you can put on your shelves and look things up in. I have a lot of books, so don't really need to write one myself. But for some reason this one seems to want to be written rather a lot...
Most of the work I do seem to come down to the same thing - it is all about leadership. About the changes people make to become better leaders, about the way organisations work that require
Cats are an inspiration. They teach you about life and the way the mind works, if only you pay attention. I have three cats currently. One old Somali, a young Main Coon and a young Chinchilla Persian (also known as a white fluffy thing..). The Main Coon looks like a hunter. She is sleek, fast, with big paws and serious claws and with a natural camouflage of mottled brown colours. The Persian is glaringly obvious, blindingly white and hard to miss, even in the middle of the night. He has
I just came off Skype after working with one of my most inspirational coachees. A coachee is someone you coach. And this guy is proof that inspiration truly runs two ways.
I have been coaching him for a long time - 18 months - and we have been on a real journey together. Today, he started out by saying that he really didn't know what we should work on, and that he had learned that I would inevitably ask him exactly the questions that he most needed to ask. So I did. As always,
I woke up this morning with my cat purring at me. Not gently next to me, no purring AT me... I knew exactly what he wanted. Food. At 4AM. Now. Please. Can't Wait, he said... Am Hungry, he said...Am Old and Pitiful, he claimed when I didn't stir...May DIE Soon, he moaned...And as usual, that got me up.
Now, if you don't have a cat, you might be thinking that I have lost the plot, but if you do - you are probably smiling and nodding at this point. Because cats communicate.
We get used to situations where we automatically set boundaries in our lives. We don't even think about them, and neither do the people we interact with on a regular basis. The challenge comes as we change and grow and as our priorities change and grow.
A classical example is when we are given new responsibilities in our job or our private life. A new project - or a new partner, maybe even a child - changes what is important
One of the important parts of NLP that is immediately useful in everyday life, is realising that the words people use, demonstrates / shows / tells you / gives you a feel for what their preferred style of communication is. We experience the world around us using our 5 senses and then make sense of it in our heads by talking to ourselves. However, with time most people use one of the senses more than the others, and that is reflected with the words they choose
I just spent 30 minutes listening to BBC News interviewing people who are caught in traffic, airports and at train terminals courtesy of the snow. Interestingly, the one thing they all complained about was the lack of information. The uncertainty. The not knowing. The not being able to plan.
This is key information for leaders everywhere, because it is a characteristic of human nature. We need to know. Or we need to not know at all. The in between is a scary
I do think coaching is a funny word. I mean, think about it. Coach comes from French coche after Kocs, the Hungarian town where closed, horse drawn carriages were first made. So - how did a word for a vehicle become something we DO? I guess you could argue that there is sense in it, however. After all, coaching is all about helping people get to where they want to go. And it is about getting them there safely, so they are 'intact' and relatively comfortable no matter